11 Jul YOU Control Your Journey, but It’s Not All About You!
By: Tanya Burk
When I ask prospective competitors why they are considering competing, the top 3 reasons I hear (besides marking an item off the bucket list) are: to be healthier, to look great, and to inspire others. All of these reasons are admirable. However, I have found that even with the best intentions, prepping for a fitness competition provides a perfect atmosphere for becoming self-absorbed. I really don’t think anyone desires or intends to be self-absorbed, but in order to do well at a competition you must meticulously plan, prep, and monitor so many details in your everyday life that your focus can easily be turned inward. We have to figure out how to get the special food we need, plan a time to prepare it, portion it out, and make sure it stays cool everywhere we go. We have to be careful to eat at certain times. We have to make sure we have our supplements with us and timed perfectly throughout our daily activities. This process alone creates an atmosphere where A LOT of focus from our daily lives has to be centered on our personal nutrition.
Then, there is exercise. Of course, every fitness competitor has to carve out time to exercise, usually twice a day most days of the week. This process involves planning and sacrificing. All of this is centered on our bodies and sculpting them to look a certain way. It is no wonder fitness competitors can easily become self-absorbed. We have invested so much time and energy feeding, fine tuning, and sacrificing just for the appearance and performance of our physical bodies, in order for them to look a certain way on stage; we don’t want anything to mess it up.
The peak of anticipation usually comes at the actual show. Nerves can be crazy for competitors at this time. One wrong bite, not enough sleep, tan streaked, make-up smeared – it can all seem like the end of the world to someone who has invested so much in how she looks for a moment on stage. This is where, I believe, we have to step back and look at the big picture. Surely, all of this work is not really for the one moment on stage. Yes, we all want to look our best on stage, but at the end of the day what is the most important aspect of this process? We have to remember our goals. We have to remember why we decided to undertake this endeavor in the first place. Was it to become healthier? Was it to look a certain way? Was it to inspire others? If we’re competing at a show, I’m sure we have reached all of these goals – and more! We need to celebrate how far we have come and enjoy the moment.
At TwinFitness we want to encourage girls to enjoy the process and let go of an inward focus. We will all enjoy the actual moment of the show so much more if we think of others during the process and enjoy their moments too. Expressing gratitude to the people who woke up at 2:30 in the morning to do hair and make-up is a gift of appreciation that will not return void. Everyone is tired, so go out of your way to give everyone a little more grace that day! Being
kind to the stage directors and other competitors is really more uplifting than being rude, even if they are rude to you! We fully expect that our Elite Coaching team members embrace our core values of being caring, confident and committed, especially at shows! Staying positive, even when the show is running late, or you didn’t get a call out, is so freeing for your overall success. If you give off negativity in this process, is the journey really worth it? If you leave the show being positive and hopeful, no matter the outcome, you will feel the success that going through this process entitles you to. Ultimately, the choice of your focus is up to you. At Twinfitness we encourage you to get the most out of your experience by being kind, grateful, happy, forgiving, positive and helpful to others. Remember, what goes around comes around, and we want only the best to come around to you!